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3 Strategies to Turn Self-Hate into Self-Love

Society has women believing that they need to look a certain way and weigh a certain number and if they don’t measure up, then they are not worthy of love, success and happiness. They tie their self-worth into a number on a scale which leads them to body hatred and self-hatred and continuously looking for the next diet.

 

What is self-love anyway?

 

You’ll likely find various definitions for self-love. To me, self-love means caring for yourself, meeting your needs and making yourself a priority in your life. It means valuing the person you are on the inside and not measuring your worth based on the outside.

 

So, you might be thinking that sounds great, but how do I do that with all the messages I’ve received since childhood into my adulthood that if I am not a size 2, I am not worthy.

 

Here are 3 strategies to help you turn self-hate into self-love:

  1. Focus on Self-esteem boosters: Make a list of the accomplishments you’ve had in your life. Read this list and add to it daily. Remind yourself that you are capable, smart and can do anything you set your mind to. You are awesome just the way you are!

 

  1. Make yourself a priority: Identify your needs that are being unmet and set self-care goals to fill those voids. Be sure to attend to your needs first so you can give to others from a place of abundance. Is this challenging when you have a partner, parents and kids relying on you? It sure is. But are you worth it? You sure are!

 

  1. Give thanks and show gratitude: You have a lot to be thankful for. Your body is amazing and keeps you alive. Each day look in the mirror and give thanks to each part of your body from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet. Proclaim your love to yourself. Do this every morning and every evening and watch how your feelings toward yourself change.

 

I am committed to helping women learn how to love themselves and their bodies exactly as they are now and gently move into a place of trusting their inner guidance system when it comes to nourishing themselves. If you’re interested in working together, schedule a call with me at www.TalkWithBonnie.com .

 

 

Be Your Own Valentine – The Ultimate Gift of Self-Love

It’s Valentine’s Day and I bet you’ve been thinking what you can do for you sweetheart, or what you can buy for him. You have spent countless hours thinking about this, what would make him feel special?

 

Yes, you find it! You are excited! Whether it’s that perfect gift or a special night on the town, you bare no expense when it comes to your honey!

 

That’s awesome! You are a wonderful partner!

 

But what about you? What do you do for yourself? When is the last time you said YES to yourself? When have you splurged on YOU!

 

Most probably it’s been a while. Especially if you have other people who rely on you (kids, spouse, elderly parents etc…). Well, their needs come first, you think.

 

Of, perhaps you don’t feel worthy enough of doing something for yourself. “How can I” plays in your head over and over again.

 

Today, on this day of LOVE, show some LOVE and KINDNESS to yourself. You’ve been struggling with your body, your weight and your food for years, maybe even decades. You think you’ve tried to help yourself by going on a diet, trying the cleanse that Jennifer Aniston was on (wow, look at her amazing body!), or signing up for Weight Watchers again (because if Oprah could lose 42.5 pounds, so could I!).

 

But I just want to talk to you straight from my heart right now. Those diets, cleanses, detoxes, even Weight Watchers won’t work. They never did work and they won’t work now. And you know what? I know you know this. It’s just that you are scared to try something different. Scared to go out of your comfort zone, even though staying in your comfort zone keeps you stuck.

 

Today, on Valentine’s Day, do this for you.

 

Schedule a call with me to see if Freedom to Eat Forever™ is right for you. If it’s not a good fit for either one of us, I will tell you!

 

The program starts on February 22, but you can start TODAY as soon as you give yourself this gift. Once you enroll, you will have immediate access to the Orientation and Pre-training Modules to get you started. Plus, the private Facebook group is already open and you’ll get to know the other amazing women in the group.

 

So, choose your Valentine’s Gift to yourself: Either –

  1. Register here for Freedom to Eat Forever™  
    There is a money back guarantee, so you have nothing to lose!
  2. Schedule a free call with me to see if Freedom to Eat Forever™ is a right fit for you. Click here to pick a time on my calendar.

 

Once you make this decision, you will feel relieved, happy and tickled all over!

 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

 

Do You Plate Your Meals?

fullsizerender-copyThink about this: When it’s time to eat, do you put your food on your plate and sit down and eat a full meal, or do you stand at the counter and pick at different foods until you feel you’re satisfied?

 

If you associate more with the latter question, you are not alone.

 

I have had a number of clients come to me feeling they are not worthy of a full meal.  Because of their weight, they do not think they deserve to really enjoy their meal and eat in a pleasant environment, free of distractions.

 

This is just not true.  Let’s take a look back to your past and figure out where this habit started.

 

Is it something you saw family members engaging in?

 

Is it something you were lead to believe by someone you trusted?

 

Do you think you are undeserving of a good meal because of what you weight?

 

No matter where this habit was formed, there is something you should realize.  You deserve a proper meal, every meal of the day, every day. You deserve to sit down and enjoy your meal and savor each bite.

 

Plating Your Meals Throughout the Day

 

Many of my clients use the excuse of always being on-the-go or busy at work as their reason for not plating each meal, but that doesn’t have to be the case.

 

Even if you’re not at home, you can still have a good meal.

 

Instead of eating breakfast in the car, wake up a few minutes early and sit at the table to enjoy your breakfast.  Those few extra minutes will make a big difference in the way your body feels.

 

Instead of eating lunch in the car or at your desk, find a table nearby to sit and enjoy yourself.  You can do this by going to a restaurant for lunch, going to your office cafeteria, or sitting on a park bench.  Your meal times can be a good time to reflect and really tune into what your body is telling you.

 

Plating Your Meal at Dinner

 

Here are a few simple ways you can start working on plating your meals and sitting down for dinner:

 

  • Treat yourself to a well-balanced, proper dinner at your own table. Make it a point to finish cooking, plate your food and sit down at the table.
  • Put a nice table cloth on your dining table. This will make your environment more enjoyable.
  • Use a nice plate instead of a paper plate. Again, this will enhance the environment of your meal.
  • Savor your meal. By actively savoring each bite, you will find yourself more satisfied with your meal rather than when you pick at food mindlessly.

 

Plating and sitting down to most of your meals throughout the day will help you feel more satisfied and you won’t find yourself reaching for a snack an hour later.  You will also become more relaxed as you can use that time to reflect on how your body feels and clear your mind.

 

Your Turn to Take Action:  For dinner tonight, make it a point to plate your meal.  Let me know how your experience was in the comments below.  I would love to hear from you!

 

If you are interested in starting on the intuitive eating journey, you can contact me here.