Today’s question comes from a woman I spoke to on Monday. Let’s call her Pat.
Pat contacted me to learn more about my 5 Step Intuitive Eating Program called Freedom to Eat Forever™. You see, she’s been dieting for a long time, has struggled with binge eating and hating her body, and really wants to embrace intuitive eating. But, here’s her question:
“I’ve already invested hundreds of dollars in other intuitive eating programs, and I’m still struggling. I’m nervous to commit, even though it sounds like working one-on-one with you is what I need. How do I overcome this worry and make the commitment?”
This is a great question and a very valid concern.
There’s 3 things I asked her to consider, which I’d like you to consider as well if you have the same question.
1. Was it an intuitive eating program, or a diet disguised as intuitive eating?
There are many health coaches, holistic nutritionists and self-proclaimed gurus on the internet that are saying they are teaching intuitive eating. Yet, upon deeper investigation, they have hijacked the term intuitive eating and are disguising it in a diet.
Case in point: a well-known coach is promoting her program where she teaches you to not diet, but then gives you rules around eating and exercise.
Another coach starts you off on the ketogenic diet, but teaches you how to lose weight through mindfulness while on the keto diet.
And yet a third coach is telling you not to follow any of the old rules of dieting, but then gives you a whole new list of rules to follow.
Rules are rules, whether they are 50 years old, 10 years old or 2 days old.
The idea behind intuitive eating is yes, listening to your body and your inner cues of hunger and fullness, but also to put YOU back in the driver’s seat.
Intuitive eating empowers you to trust in yourself again, trust that you can make food choices and exercise decisions for your body that feel right for you. Not that another person feels is best for you.
Now don’t get me wrong. This doesn’t mean that you wouldn’t benefit from guidance from a professional on nutrition and movement. You can, most everyone can. But the idea is that you get to make the decisions with the gentle, caring support of a professional walking the journey with you.
2. Did you have any one-on-one private coaching?
Many clients who come to me after having “tried” other intuitive eating programs realize that the missing piece for them was the lack of 1-1 private coaching in other programs. They joined a group program because it was a less expensive route, and while there were group coaching calls, there were no, or very few, 1-1 private coaching sessions. They attended the group calls, but didn’t get to do the deep dive work to uncover the mental blocks and limiting beliefs that were holding them back.
Once these women started working with me 1-1, they saw the value in getting the personal help and insight into how their past is affecting their present. That’s when real change happened.
The program Pat previously invested in did not have 1-1 coaching, and this made all the difference for her.
Did you have the deep dive 1-1 coaching as part of your previous intuitive eating program?
3. Are you a self-starter and self-motivator?
This is a very important question to ask yourself, and to answer honestly. If you are not a self-starter and don’t do well holding yourself accountable, then that is probably one very big reason why those other programs didn’t work out for you.
In the case of Pat, she joined a group program that had modules for her to complete. The problem is she isn’t a self-starter and would push off doing the modules. When she motivated herself enough to sit down and do some of the work, it didn’t last long. Her kids needed her, her husband needed her and she got pushed back down to the bottom of the totem pole.
There was no consistency, and this lack of consistency and action kept her stuck where she was.
If this sounds like you, that’s okay. Not everyone can ‘go it alone’. The fact that you identify this now helps you to take your next steps.
After considering these 3 questions, Pat decided to take a leap of faith and work with me one-on-one so she can finally be at peace with food and her body.
Are you ready to take your leap of faith? If yes, just email me at Bonnie@DietFreeRadiantMe.com with the subject line: I’m Ready!
Best wishes for a happy, healthy and intuitive 2018!